There’s been a lot going on lately. Work has been busy, the blog has been successful and there’s a new relationship blooming in my life. Overall, things are flowing the way I always knew they could if I just released certain blocks.
Like I’ve said many times before, 2012 was dedicated to really working on me. In 2011, I had the job, I’d figured out the finances and I’d gotten used to living back in Miami after college. Now I needed to release whatever fears I had surrounding relationships, self-love and authenticity. I needed to forgive and I needed to release whatever was blocking from living the fulfilling life I knew was always possible.
Everything is interconnected.
At the end of the day we’re complicated creatures. There’s more to us than our net worth and our jobs and we all come to this earth essentially looking for the same thing – happiness.
There is a saying in my coaching classes that explains the interconnectedness of our lives, “After the third session every kind of coaching is life coaching.” It’s simple really, every aspect of our lives is affected by another. If we’re feeling funky on one place, and if we attach ourselves to the funkiness, it’ll spread to other areas.
Far too often I interview candidates who have gotten themselves into a hell of a mess. You soon learn that it’s because they have a lot going on – relationships, family, financial, self-worth issues, the list goes on. If they don’t work on the area thats not flowing then it spreads like wildfire into every other area of their lives.
Happiness is always an inside job.
This may be an overstated cliche but it is very true. Happiness comes from the inside. It doesn’t come with a shiny car, a nice paycheck or a boyfriend. Although all that stuff is totally great, you’ll have a far better chance of attracting good things into your life that last if you’re already giving off good vibes.
The more self-accepting and loving you are, the more you treat others with compassion and the more you relinquish control, the happier you’ll be. And you can bet people notice – from hiring managers to potential partners.
Look at the content not the frame.
This is one of my favorite teachings from Gabrielle Bernstein, and one that has been very prevalent in my life as of late. If we’re so focused on how something looks or how it comes packaged than we could be closing the door to some wonderful things in our lives. I’ll let her take it away.
Breathe through uneasiness – it’ll pass.
One of the great things about yoga is that it teaches you to breathe through difficulty. Sometimes you are in a really awkward pose or your body is resisting. Rather than clinging on to the resistance and causing further suffering, you go with the flow and breathe. Before you know it you’re fine again.
This translates perfectly off the matt when we find ourselves in difficult situations. If we learn to go with the flow, breathe and stop resisting we can get through things easier.
Letting go and forgiving is easier than we think.
We’ve all been hurt – some of us even brutally so. That being said we may feel like an idiot for still holding on to things even years after the fact (I’m not judging I’ve definitely been there). You may wonder if you’ll ever move on, if you’ll ever be happy again when in reality the solution is very simple: let it go.
Push yourself out of your comfort zone – constantly.
Too many people live within the confinements of their own fear. If something is even the slightest bit uncomfortable for them they decide to jump ship. They don’t start their own business because they fear it’s too hard. The don’t got after a promotion because they think they’ll never get it. They don’t make the first move because they are afraid of looking like an idiot.
So now I ask you, what’s the worst that could happen if something doesn’t work out? Are you suddenly going to drop dead because you didn’t get that date or because you quit your job? The answer is probably no.
Now what would happen if things did work out? You’d probably be better off than you were if you’d never even tried.
That being said, make it a point to live on your own edge daily.
I’ve made it a point to follow the above principles throughout 2012 and the results have been amazing. Good things are constantly happening and I know it’s because I’ve taken the time and made the effort to condition my mind and start coming from a place of positivity rather than anxiety. The world seems brighter than it has in a very long time.
